We have our evolutionary instincts, and we can't deny that. But as humans are getting more civilized we are detouring from them. Maybe I should have used 'moving away' instead of 'detouring', but you got what I'm trying to say. That shall not be considered a bad thing to say. We're creatures who mend and bend nature. We shall embrace that.
Another thing that might be connected to this all is the growth in loneliness. I feel lonely, and I also feel the need to give love. This love doesn't have to be for a child, might also be for someone else.
You are absolutely right that there is a sense of someone “becoming a man” beyond the biological sense. It’s fine if it’s taken in a manner of speaking sort of way. That’s why I gave the caveat that there are things that men should and shouldn’t do. I think the problem comes when people mistake someone “not being a good man” as someone “not being a man at all”. People often conflate those two. For example, I heard a well known red-pill guy making a distinction between a “man” and a “male”. IOW, if you do these things you are a “man”, but if you don’t you’re a “male”. It’s emasculating, if you ask me (as if guys don’t go through enough of that in modern society already). I know that may sound like semantics, but I do believe that it’s important. What is a man? If what defines a man is a set of behaviors, then why can’t a woman who “acts like a man” be a man? Thus, a “trans-man” is a man by that definition. But if sex is something that you are, not just biological but also beyond, then it doesn’t matter what you do. You’re still a man. Now whether or not you’re a good man, that’s a different question altogether.
I hope I’m making sense here since I’m kind of shooting from the hip right now.
As for the masculinity influencers, I admit that I might be a bit too harsh. Some of them did give advice that is unfortunately is hard to find elsewhere, as you said. But I think even the better ones come across as folks who take advantage of a terrible situation, like Crassus’ fire department putting out fires in Ancient Rome but only if said homeowner would sell the home to the guy. Harsh? Possibly, but that’s the conclusion I came to based on my observations.
Ironically, when I think of people who give the best “masculinity” advices, it’s those who don’t brand themselves as such.
Also, I'm glad you enjoyed this little article I wrote in a whim. Much appreciated.
We have our evolutionary instincts, and we can't deny that. But as humans are getting more civilized we are detouring from them. Maybe I should have used 'moving away' instead of 'detouring', but you got what I'm trying to say. That shall not be considered a bad thing to say. We're creatures who mend and bend nature. We shall embrace that.
Another thing that might be connected to this all is the growth in loneliness. I feel lonely, and I also feel the need to give love. This love doesn't have to be for a child, might also be for someone else.
You are absolutely right that there is a sense of someone “becoming a man” beyond the biological sense. It’s fine if it’s taken in a manner of speaking sort of way. That’s why I gave the caveat that there are things that men should and shouldn’t do. I think the problem comes when people mistake someone “not being a good man” as someone “not being a man at all”. People often conflate those two. For example, I heard a well known red-pill guy making a distinction between a “man” and a “male”. IOW, if you do these things you are a “man”, but if you don’t you’re a “male”. It’s emasculating, if you ask me (as if guys don’t go through enough of that in modern society already). I know that may sound like semantics, but I do believe that it’s important. What is a man? If what defines a man is a set of behaviors, then why can’t a woman who “acts like a man” be a man? Thus, a “trans-man” is a man by that definition. But if sex is something that you are, not just biological but also beyond, then it doesn’t matter what you do. You’re still a man. Now whether or not you’re a good man, that’s a different question altogether.
I hope I’m making sense here since I’m kind of shooting from the hip right now.
As for the masculinity influencers, I admit that I might be a bit too harsh. Some of them did give advice that is unfortunately is hard to find elsewhere, as you said. But I think even the better ones come across as folks who take advantage of a terrible situation, like Crassus’ fire department putting out fires in Ancient Rome but only if said homeowner would sell the home to the guy. Harsh? Possibly, but that’s the conclusion I came to based on my observations.
Ironically, when I think of people who give the best “masculinity” advices, it’s those who don’t brand themselves as such.
Also, I'm glad you enjoyed this little article I wrote in a whim. Much appreciated.